Work Update

Sunday, June 06, 2010
I found out late (and I mean with 10 minutes left in the day) Friday that my coworker (the one whose husband passed away) will be returning to the office on Monday. Talk about no warning. Either from her or from the big bosses (they found out earlier in the day). I was unable to move any of my stuff away or her stuff back. Heck, even my shoes are sitting there underneath the desk and there might be a half drunk cup of tea sitting there. It irks me a bit that neither party bothered to give a bit more warning - whether a few hours on the higher-ups part, or even a day on the coworkers part. Whatever, there's nothing I can do about it now.

I'm anticipating Monday morning to be a bit awkward and it has nothing to do with wondering what you say to someone whose longtime spouse has died. I'm supposed to sit with her for a couple of days to help her tranistion back into her role which makes sense but I can't do my job (which has very strict timelines) if I'm sitting with her all day. And frankly, I don't think it's going to take that long. My biggest concern especially with leaving all of my stuff there, is that I don't want her feeling as though I've taken over her job and "moved in". Does that make sense?

Relief has washed over me, knowing she'll be back and there'll be one less job for me to do but it's mixed with a splash of anxiety. I'm supposed to head to my old desk when I arrive and not go over until they call me so we can chat about what's going to happen. Can you say "awkward"?

8 comments:

mister anchovy said...

you might consider showing up way early and doing a quick clean-up of the desk area...

Captain Karen said...

Already discussed with the boss-types. They said no, leave as is...long story, too complicated to get into here but that was my first reaction as well.

Wandering Coyote said...

Wow, it really sounds to me like this situation is really being micromanaged a lot by your bosses! THAT is what's awkward about it, it sounds to me.

Good luck on Monday!

Heather said...

I think just a 'welcome back, I missed you' is enough. Just assume that she's ready, if she's showing up, and that the first few days will be rough - just from getting back into the swing of things.

I imagine HR will be involved with their return-to-work plan. I doubt it's micro-management - these sorts of things tend to be carefully orchestrated for the sake of the returning employee...and that usually does entail a meeting with the employee and management (and HR). They'll have to get that out of the way first.

There's nothing for you to feel bad or awkward about - you did cover her responsibilities, while she was away, and there's no need to hide that.

Just be you. That's more than good enough.

S.M. Elliott said...

I would have to agree with Heather; it sounds like everything is being arranged, and you've done nothing to feel awkward about. You simply did what was needed/expected as all good workers do!

My godmother lost her husband of 40 years last year. At first I didn't know what to do, but I quickly realized that she didn't want people to fuss over her and treat her like a fragile object; she needed sympathy, of course, but not pity or the kid-gloves treatment. She wanted to get started on a new phase of life.

Barbara Bruederlin said...

I hope it went well, and that the awkwardness was kept to a minimum.

tweetey30 said...

I am suprised you cant show up a little earlier and do some clean up but understood where they are coming from too.. i think she will understand why you have your stuff in her area.. you wanted it homy too and she still has her stuff there where its her cubicle..

Milla said...

Monday has now passed. Give us an update please...

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