The Blogger Conundrum

Tuesday, July 12, 2011
I used to think I was pretty special because I blogged. Most of my friends don’t do it and when they eventually find out that I do? Ooohs and Aaaaahs. “You have a BLOG?” they ask. Yeah, that’s right, I’m a “blogger”. Look at me, I’m hip and happening despite being almost over the hill.

It’s not something I typically share with coworkers or mere acquaintances – I like to keep parts of my life separate from the workplace and don’t want to hear my latest post being discussed around the water cooler. Some of my family can access it – I post the links to much of what I write on Facebook – but that’s exactly the reason I’m not “friends” with extended family I don’t keep in touch with (one relative told me to ask my father why he never talks to them…). Anyways, I was a bit surprised at lunch today to learn that two of my coworkers blog semi-regularly.

And they were so casual about it. This struck me as odd. Sure, millions of people out there blog; its not uncommon but they were just so … open … about it. And, from the sounds of it, they had read each others’ blogs! One coworker even did an impromptu poll and mentioned that she was going to blog about it later and would let us know when she did so we could read it. What kind of insanity is this?
Perhaps their openness isn’t what was so odd but my reaction to this news?

Deep down I’m a private person and part of me wants to believe that few people if any read what I write. I know this isn’t true because I have a small group of regular readers whose blogs I also regularly read. I guess part of the illusion is that I don’t really know these people. With a few exceptions, I’ve never met them. That doesn’t mean I don’t consider them my friends but there’s something different about people you don’t see face to face everyday that, I feel, allows you to be more honest, more open with them than you would with people whose physical presence you find yourself in on a regular basis. At least for me it does. I don’t want people I work with or see regularly to know intimate details about my life or my deepest, darkest thoughts.

The coworker who polled us at lunch? They’ve shared their blog link with me. Hilarious writing. Reminds me of … me. Part of me is eager to reciprocate but the image of them showing up at my desk, wanting to talk about what I may have shared the night before arises unbidden before my eyes. The horror. Not so much the talking about it; it’s the talking about it at work where other people could hear.

Alas what to do. Said coworker hasn’t asked for my blog link or even if I blog. Best just to keep that on the down low for know, methinks. I can always think about it later.


mister anchovy said...

I have shared my blog link with a number of people at work but outside of a small circle of friends there, few actually visit. Occasionally I'm surprised though. We have a cafeteria and I was in line for coffee the other morning and a fellow I've known for many years saw me and commented that he had been enjoying my series of posts about train songs. I had no idea he even read the thing.

I think these days blogging is not so hip as it was for a few moments a few years ago, but I don't much care about that. I enjoy the fact that for no cost I can have an online journal that is capable of sharing everything from links to video to photos. There are really no rules, so I can do it the way I please, make it look the way I please, and post as often as I please. Since I don't go out of my way to please anybody with my blog, I sometimes find it curious that, like you, I've picked up a small but fairly faithful group of readers.

Unlike many bloggers, I don't get a lot of comments. I know some bloggers who can make any kind of post at all and immediately draw 15 or 20 comments in no time. There are a small number of regular readers who comment from time to time at my place, but I figure they're just being nice. I figure the low number of comments just means what I'm posting is "just right" (har!).

Red said...

My advice? Keep the blog to yourself. Once your co-workers are in on it, you can kiss goodbye to the idea of venting about a project or a pain-in-the-ass situation at work. You'll inevitably censor yourself. And you don't want to do that, do you?

-Kacey said...

I absolutely love your blog. I enjoy reading what you write. I am now a loyal follower. :)

You can find me at:

I like feeling like I am a part of your secret blog world.

Karen said...

I've decided to not share the blog with my coworkers. It might be different once I get to know them better but as I've only been there a few months, its just too soon. Perhaps it will never be a 'good' time but we'll see.

Kacey, thanks! Glad to have you in my little world. :)

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